In this work that I do, I create and deliver a wedding ceremony in a personalized and custom way – no matter if your guest list is two or 200, sweet/simple or more elaborate and formal.
For each couple with whom I am fortunate to work, I am the co-creator, consultant, resource person, encourager, advisors and Officiant of a wedding ceremony.
I lead with a happy and generous heart and a strong background in special events planning and production (from my former corporate life). I keep the focus on you, the couple, recognizing that each couple truly owns their ceremony and has the last word on what we say and do.
Bottom line? My job is to execute your dream/vision for the ceremony portion of your wedding day, to choreograph your wedding ceremony with your personal story, to consult with your vendors (music, DJ, wedding planner, etc.)
The value to you? Peace of mind, comfort and ease on a very important day.
Easy. Because you “know you.” I leave it to each couple to decide if I’m a best Officiant fit for them, their tribe and their vision of what they want/desire for their wedding ceremony. If I am ultimately selected, I join a couple with a happy heart knowing I’m a best choice in terms of personality, work style and more.
Sometimes two days. Sometimes two months. Often six to 12+ months out.
Weekend dates/times (Fri/Sat/Sun) are most popular and the first to go. Thursday evening during the months of May – September are also very popular and a viable option for a couple.
To check my availability, please email me, text or call at: 951.523.0940.
Most often, I meet with a couple for coffee/tea and conversation. We spend 30 minutes or so getting to know one another and discover if we’re a best fit to share in a wedding ceremony.
In many ways, this is kind of like a first date! Oftentimes, we both know within five minutes of sitting down if we are moving forward together – it’s that complicated and that simple.
Some couples book without an initial meeting, preferring a phone conversation or conference call.
Each couple is different and fees vary. During any given month, my fees range from $250 – $950 for services, depending on what a couple desires for their wedding ceremony.
Truth? I don’t do “cookie cutter” work. Once I learn what you want for your ceremony, I can offer a fee quote for services, working within a wedding budget.
In addition to the time invested to create and craft your ceremony, my fee often includes time/effort to lead your rehearsal, travel time to/from your venue and more. It also reflects time dedicated to arriving early on your wedding day to serve as your “pre-ceremony planner,” to insure an easy, elegant and prompt ceremony start.
Finally, my fee includes: ceremony revisions, emails and phone contact, vendor/resources leads, wedding planning guidance and submitting your signed legal paperwork to the County.
I request a $250 deposit to book your wedding date/time. The balance is collected 60 days before your ceremony.
Upon invitation to join you for your wedding ceremony, you’ll receive an immediate email confirmation and all pieces/documents to begin our work together. I request a signed agreement so the terms of our relationship are clear and you are fully comfortable in your relationship with me. I also like to get your rehearsal date/time on my calendar.
From this point, our process of crafting and creating your ceremony begins. A draft copy will be forwarded to you for approval, anywhere from 30-90 days before your ceremony, often with selections and suggestions for your consideration. And I am available to you via email or phone for questions or concerns as we move forward to your wedding day.
Here’s what I know for sure – if a wedding ceremony is too short it feels weird. If it is too long, you and your guests feel vulnerable and frustrated.
Most often, the length of a wedding ceremony ranges from 18-28 minutes, and this includes the entrance/processional, ceremony and recessional. Elopements or sweet and simple ceremonies often average about 12-14 minutes.
And you know what? I’m less concerned with how long a ceremony is. I’m more concerned about how it “feels” and if everyone is present, comfortable and at ease – this way, you also remember more from this big emotional moment.
It all depends. Most often, I arrive anywhere from 30-60 minutes early so I can be helpful to a couple, their wedding party and family and friends. When I arrive, I get to work to insure all pre-ceremony details are attended to for an elegant and easy (and prompt) ceremony start.
I also enjoy staying a bit afterwards for photos and conversation, etc.
I re-connect with you. I meet your family and friends. I whip everyone and everything into shape! It’s important for me to lead a fun and easy “run through” of the processional and recessional and to go over the internal parts of a ceremony with a couple. We don’t go through the words, special elements or rituals. We leave this for the wedding day.
At a rehearsal, there is oftentimes a lot of emotion so humor is big for me. At the end of a rehearsal, I want the two of you and your family/friends to walk away with an easy sense that “that lady has it.”
Most often, a rehearsal lasts about 45 minutes. Bribes are good to family, friends and wedding party for a prompt arrival so we can start/end on time. Venues often book rehearsals back-to-back so a prompt start insures we have a full block of time to rehearse.
Go for it – absolutely! Your ceremony is all about the two of you. You have a profound opportunity to craft personal words that reflect your love and devotion and that amplify your commitment to now and the future. If you’d like help crafting your vows, please let me know.
In the nine years of doing this work, I have always shown for a wedding. In the event something catastrophic were to happen, I would work to insure a suitable replacement for your date/time, although this can’t be guaranteed, especially in the summer high season. I don’t worry about this and trust that if something were to happen, we’d work together for a best solution.
Yes, it’s important for me to offer opportunities during a ceremony for family and children to participate as appropriate to a couple. If you desire, you may work with me to incorporate intimate and memorable rituals into your ceremony. I am a big fan of involving children in a ceremony without taking the focus off the bride and groom.
When do we sign our marriage license documents?
There are different options for signing your marriage license documents and I will review this with you during our initial consultation and/or at rehearsal. At the end of the day, it is my job to insure all signed documents are immediately returned for processing to your County.
You will use the same name that is on your marriage license. You may begin using your new name after this.
I’m a fashionista! Better said, I dress elegantly and appropriately for a ceremony. Depending on the couple, style of ceremony and venue, I may wear an elegant neutral pantsuit to a special request from a couple. My goal is to blend in, not stick out. No crazy patterns, no stripes, no plaid! Think more neutral color (beige/black) with perhaps a beautiful scarf or pearls.
Easy. call or text: 951.523.0940. Or Email me at: Silverandsageweddings@gmail.com
Often. I’m one of the few “vendors” a couple actually sees on their wedding day. So, over the years, I’ve witnessed many wedding professionals in action on a wedding day and have my favorites.